If you are taking the time to read this then I would imagine you want more for yourself? And if you are anything like me you would have been facing some fear, loneliness, uncertainty and confusion as just a few conflicting emotions. The journey into self help can be scary but the reward of having a great sense of who you are and what you really want can give you purpose, passion and confidence like you have never known before!
How badly do you want you a successful fulfilling life? Let’s see…
1 – Most People Don’t Know What They Want?
It’s rare people take the time to sit with pen and paper to get really clear about what they want in life. In this day and age the fight for our attention has never been greater, just when you thought you wanted ‘that thing’ a new shinier one comes along!
This constant barrage of marketing is relentless, the psychology used these days is beyond most of our consciousness leaving us prey to all media. As a consequence we mill around spending like mad men and women but never truly acquiring what we really want. Take some time to think about what you really want, not what you think you should have to be accepted by others.
Note: what you want may not necessarily be of a monetary value like ‘time’ for example. Before you put up any obstacles about the ‘how’ just concentrate on the ‘what’ the how is just the minds way of producing hurdles and fear to keep you safe.
2 – Most People Don’t Know Why They Want What They Want?
If your ‘why’ is big enough you can make anything happen! Spending some time to get very clear on why you want something can excite you and inspire you to go after it.
- Equally taking the time to consider the pain around it never happening can be a great way to ignite fire in your belly! One life people!
- Do you want a better life for your kids or your family?
- Do you want to be the one who changes the way your children will be brought up compared to your childhood?
- Do you know you have something that can help people but something inside you is holding it back?
I believe we all have a special gift inside of us and its our duty to let it out, whats your gift?
3 – You Are Not Yet The Person You Need To Be ‘Yet’ In Order To Do The Things Required, To Get The Things You Want…
Your health, wealth and happiness will only ever grow as much as you do! If you were where you want to be right now you most probably wouldn’t be reading this. If you aren’t fulfilled right now I would suggest that somewhere somehow the way you are living your life isn’t helping? If you want better health for example you need to become a healthier person, which will mean making some changes. A lot of people I meet are just hoping and waiting for something in there lives to change. Lets not wait lets make it happen!
The same goes for making more money, to get more you either have to work more, harder, longer, smarter or get more financial education and importantly, use it. Every next level I have grown in business has been because I first grew to be the person who could handle new levels of pressure, stress and challenge. Without becoming the person capable or at least being a person willing to stretch in the challenges at the time then real growth and success isn’t possible.
4 – You Don’t take ACTION
Many people talk about making change but few take the action! Taking action in my opinion is the best way to become successful, yes it will involve failure but its in failing we learn. Most people wait until the plan or the timing is perfect, this is just a way of putting of doing it. If your ‘why’ is big enough you will always find a way to figure out to obstacles!
You miss 100% of no shots taken my friend. Ask yourself whats the worst that can happen? Often it isn’t fatal or tragic, our minds have a way of producing fear chemicals that give us a physical reaction and a sense of irrationality to dissuade us from making changes. This is a unnecessary survival mechanism which helped our species survive through caveman ages, now it just hinders our progress in life. You can read more about the mind and how we can override it to get what we really want in my book.
5 – Your Self Concept
How you see yourself and what you believe possible for yourself is critical to keeping any success for long. We have blueprints for all areas of our lives, particularly our weight and income!
Why is it so many people lose weight and put it back on? Why is it people who come into money find a way to lose it or never find it in the first place?
Self sabotage is our way of keeping our self concept in check. Your self concept was likely formed when you were young, something as simple as being laughed at and told you were fat or poor could have locked this belief in for life. Once it is a belief it will just keep playing the same old story leaving you endlessly frustrated and exhausted was never being able to understand why things never change for you?
Sadly for many this can lead to a sense of hopelessness and giving up ‘Ive been there’
So There You Have It!
My top 5 reasons for not having what you want. If you would like to read or hear more information like this why not download a free chapter of my book?
I have worked with business coaches, life coaches, psychotherapists, councillors, hypnotherapists and self help gurus from all over the world! I can tell you that support and accountability are key in sustainable growth both in business and personally.
If you are interested in working with me either 1 on 1, group coaching or interested in attending one of my workshops please send me a email detailing what you are looking for to project@aaronclarkeofficial.com.
Thanks for reading, stay open.
Aaron
